“Who are we to deny our souls the full range of emotional experiences?”
There’s no magic pill that will make self-doubt or anxiety disappear, but there are healing tools and principles we can use to shift the energy and restore our peace of mind, vitality and presence.
In the previous 2 articles I discussed the nature of self-doubt as a common human experience and covered an energetic ritual to disintegrate those energies.Here we’ll touch on how to work with a darker aspect of self-doubt that we’ve all moved through at one time or another.
Remember, your Soul came to the earth plane to have experiences. Who are we to deny our souls the darker ranges of human emotion in favor of only the lighter ones?
It’s not only natural to have self-doubt at times,
but it’s your soul’s right to experience it.
“The Real You is Love and when we are connected to that we feel the absence of fear, worry or self-doubt. We feel safe, sound, loved.”
One of the darkest places to be energetically and emotionally is in the “room of consciousness” known as “shame”. Shame is the most intense level of self-doubt, because it’s a reflection of how little we are believing in ourselves, mixed in with a healthy does of dis-believing in ourselves, which makes it that much more intense.
I’d like to emphasize here that there is nothing that you could do that would ever cause your Higher Soul to not love you. As I discussed in previous articles, the Real You is always a being of Love, Light & Power. The Real You is Love and when we are connected to our True Nature we feel the absence of fear, worry or self-doubt. We feel safe, sound, loved.
When we are in the “shame-room of consciousness” we have a hard time realizing that, because other heavy energies are mixed in with self-doubt and they are self-judgement and anger or frustration. When these energies are turned inwardly, as it is in shame, it’s a very volatile mix.
It’s also one of the toughest spaces to come out of without feeling a need to seek relief in obsessive behavior. Shame can remain buried beneath alcoholic tendencies, relationship addictions, over-working or over-eating, among other imbalanced behavior, for as long as we wish to live in coping mode.
But if you want to be in healing mode, here are 2 things you can practice a few times a week, to move the energy along and find your way back to the Love, Light & Power that you really are.
Radical Forgiveness, Electric Violet Light and Sacred Bathing
When we are stuck in shame the notion of forgiving ourselves isn’t even on the radar. So much mind-noise exists causing our energy to contract, clogging up the flow.
When we are not in flow our ability to connect is inhibited. Even a less intense morsel of shame slows the flow down. Sometimes this can manifest in physical symptoms like shortness of breath, poor digestion, panic attacks, or isolating behavior.
I personally believe that panic attacks are comprised of a bit of shame energy that’s been long hidden, waiting to be released and processed. I’ve had success in helping clients reduce and eliminate panic attacks, with some of what you are about to learn here.
What is Radical Forgiveness?
“The opposite of severity and aggression is what heals”
It’s radical only because when we are in shame it seems so right to blame ourselves, dis, berate, or punish ourselves. Somehow the mind thinks severity and aggression will keep us from repeating the behavior or prevent another similar incident from happening.
The mind may even believe that in order to let itself off the hook, punishment is required. But severity and aggression will only add to and solidify the shame.
Now, what if I told you that the opposite of severity and aggression would heal that? What if I told you that forgiveness would not only relieve the suffering shame brings, but also restructure your nervous system to thrive? Would you be willing to practice radical forgiveness of your Self, if you knew that forgiveness was a healing agent and nothing more?
Volumes have been written on the topic because when we are mind-cluttered it just doesn’t feel or seem possible. But what if I told you that you don’t have to necessarily want to forgive? What if I told you it’s possible to approach it from a purely technical angle the same way that biting on a pencil to make your face smile releases happifying endorphins in the brain?
You don’t have to wonder if it’s working; or think about how hard forgiveness is; or resist forgiving yourself, because the exercise is what does it all for you.
Anyone can do this exercise and I call it radical forgiveness because you are simply putting yourself in the flow of mercy-energy by using the affirmation below, while focusing on your heart.
Because we want to create a flow of energy that sweeps out the unwanted frequencies, you’ll need to employ slow rhythmic breathing as directed in my September article.
Lani’s Guided Meditation for Self-Forgiveness and Healing
Practice breathing into your heart chakra. Even setting your attention there will begin to open it up and speed up the flow of energy moving through you.
As you feel an expanding sensation in your chest area, prepare to be a channel of pink compassionate, merciful and loving energy that radiates out from your heart to your hands (palms facing away from you in blessing position) and visualize a small earth in front of you receiving this pink iridescent light.
It’s going out to all on planet earth, without exception. Maintain this visualization and flow while affirming:
“I am not this uncomfortable emotion or experience.”
(inhale and exhale at the heart chakra)
“This self-doubt, pain, shame or anxiety energy is not the Real ME.”
(inhale and exhale at the heart chakra)
“The Real Me is a being of Light, Love and Power.”
(inhale and exhale at the heart chakra)
“I am a channel of Love, Light, Mercy, and Forgiveness to all unconditionally.”
(inhale and exhale at the heart and crown chakra simultaneously)
Visualize the pink light saturating the earth with love energy and feel it moving through your body with each easy breath. Hold the intention of being a channel for kindness, mercy, understanding and forgiveness.
“I the Soul forgive myself easily, gracefully and completely.”
(inhale and exhale at both heart and crown chakras simultaneously)
“As I am blessing, so I am blessed; as I am giving, so I am receiving; as I am channeling forgiveness so am I forgiven. With thanks and in full faith. So be it”
You may repeat the affirmation or hold the intention as the energy cleans you out, while breathing slowly from the abdominal pelvic area (not upper chest breathing). Even 5 minutes spent in this exercise can shift things significantly. Additionally, if there’s still heavy energy left you can move onto the second tool.
Electric Violet Light & Sacred Bathing
If the heart chakra exercise doesn’t quite take care of the heavy energy and leave you lighter, you can take a sacred healing bath. What makes it sacred is the use of electric violet light and your intention. Electric violet light is a form of chi energy invisible to the eyes and channeled by our bodies. It is a powerful purifying agent for emotional distress. This is what electric violet light looks like when seen clairvoyantly:
Simply draw a bath and add 2-3 pounds of plain salt (not epsom salts), temperature to your liking. Add 15-20 drops of lavender, or sage essential oil to enhance the healing process.
Now, (after having practiced the above exercise) with gentle awareness on your crown chakra and while holding your hands palms out towards the bath water, project brilliant, blinding white light with pale violet around the edges (see photo) by gently focusing on the crown chakra and visualizing it saturating the bath water as you do about 5-7 slow deep breaths.
Afterwards, pass your hands over the length of the tub, above the water, mentally affirming “stabilize, stabilize, stabilize” to keep the energy anchored in the water.
You may also program or instruct the salt-water by saying, “thank you so much for extracting and disintegrating all congested stress energy from my subtle bodies and chakras. In full faith, thank you”. Soak in the bath for no more than 30 min and shower off.
It’s easier to feel into believing in yourself when the heavy energy of shame and self-doubt have been cleaned out.
These intuitive healing tools are easy to use and they can help you transcend the common resistances that arise when faced with reluctance to forgive ourselves or others.
It’s easier to feel into believing in ourselves when the heavy energy of shame and self-doubt have been cleaned out of the chakras and aura and our energies are flowing in greater alignment to the love, light and power that we inherently are.
If you practice you are sure to find surprising results. Whatever you notice, I’d love to hear from you. Simply post at facebook.com/HealingWithLani.
There’s so much more that electric violet light can do. I love teaching healing skills and techniques to any and all who wish to learn. Anytime my clients have a session, they come away from it learning something new.
Now with these techniques and practices you too can experience virtually instant self-healing and experience a deeper sense of belief in yourself while transmuting the heavy energy of self-doubt.